So my goal for this exercise is to look at the past two days of my daily interactions with people and try to see areas where I could bring value and genuinely help people. The first part of the exercise was to see observe where I could contribute value. The second part was to look at the situation take action and give value. The key part of this is that value is given it is never expected back and you are giving value because of the way it makes you feel not because of how it makes the other person feel.
You know the one thing that all great people have from the great leaders of ancient times to the elite people of today is that they are genuinely nice and incredibly generous. When you have so much value and great things in life it is only right to give it away to other people and help people achieve the same.
Now in my past I have tried to do this in many parts of my life as a general rule. Having been a shy introvert and not interacting with people until my twenties one of my first exercises to break out of this many years ago was by just going out and practicing being nice to people. As a result most people would call me a nice person which is something that I am still very happy about.
But this exercise got me thinking to a whole new level. Yes I can be nice on short interactions and probably have a good mood created from it in the short term but how do I take it to a whole new level and be generous to make an actual impact on people's lives.
The Exercise
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To be honest I cheated a lot here. Whenever I observed something I would also go and help out. So in essence I was doing double the amount of part 2 of the exercise but I didn't mind. I was out actively looking for places where my unique self can be of value to another. Here were my common observations:
1) Co-worker floundering in a meeting - stepped in and prodded him on and urged others to listen.
2) Young kid struggling in the gym - saw a young kid obviously motivated but with poor technique. Sat down with him and walked him through exercises. He wanted to do a full pull up and gave him a plan to get there.
3) Hot blonde aspiring actress from england was talking about her time here and how she wants to settle down in NYC - Ok this one has other obvious reasons but honestly I approached this as just giving value and really don't expect anything in return. I remembered Adam giving advice about visas to a group of english girls in miami and I offered that. I also offered Adam's value (without telling him of course) and said I would put them in touch. Also going to bring her into my social circle since she is new.
4) Old lady in supermarket needed help getting something so I saw it and asked if she wanted help.
5) Invited my sister and a few other non-social friends to a big social circle party I am throwing even though it will limit my ability to escalate.
Some of the observed ones were as follows:
1) Helping out in grocery stores with stuff that's out of reach.
2) Tourists and directions
3) Saw someone with car troubles on the side of the road and I really should have stopped but was so late to a meeting. Really kick myself for this.
Conclusion
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So as I expected this was one of the most enjoyable and powerful exercises I have done so far. It really got me thinking about things much more than just a game level. I mean this is stuff that has a really deep impact on my life.
Helping people and giving value should be a constant goal in my Natural life. To accentuate this I took the time to look up famous people I admire and noticed that they all partake in humanitarian activities. Now some may accuse this of publicity but I think that they do this because they need to find focused times to give value because if they just went down the street giving value they would attract too much attention and potential stalkers.
So this is an exercise that I will definitely continue and now that I am learning to look at things in this way I don't think I can go back. Plus it is a super cool inner game and confidence booster to do something nice and to have people smile and be friendly.
Oh yes and almost forgot my final and most important way of giving value
- Giving my sweet sweet loving to all hot girls in the vicinity because hot girls need love too.